My name is Sterling, I'm 22-years-old, and I am the birthmother to the most gorgeous little boy in the world. I started this blog to share my experiences, thoughts, and help myself move forward after placing my sweet little boy. If this is your first time visiting my blog, I invite you to read my story (top of the left column). Feel free to comment with questions or requests. If you follow me, I'll follow you!

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Cause or Crusade?

That's what I'm determining right now. I'm about to start on a brand new journey in 2 weeks, and I will soon be sharing my life completely with the man I love. He is so supportive of all the adoption advocating I do, and has encouraged my open adoption fully.

But now I have to decide - Am I part of a cause, or a crusade? I will always be part of the adoption world, I will always advocate, and I will always LOVE and be GRATEFUL for what adoption has given me. It has given me the peace that my little boy is with his eternal family, loved, and adored. It has given me a new chance at life, and has put me in the right place at the right time to meet my eternal companion (to be!).

I will be taking a formal break from blogging for a little while. I will be weaning myself from my support group over the next couple months, and I will begin to move forward. I don't know how long I will be on this blogging hiatus. Maybe a month, maybe longer. We'll see. But in the meantime, I want to thank everyone so much for their support and love. These past couple of years have been the most incredibly heartbreaking and wonderful years.

I'm getting married in two weeks. I'm excited, I'm at peace. It brings me to tears to know that this wonderful, wonderful man I will be marrying loves me for everything I am and everything I've overcome, and will continue to overcome. I am so blessed. Thank to those who have supported me in the past, and who will continue to support me.

(PS- My sister designed this save-the-date! Find her on Etsy - danandwinnie !!)


  1. Sterling, I just found your blog and have spent the past few hours reading the entire thing (plus some of your new blog). I just wanted to thank you for sharing yourself so freely. My husband and I have been trying to adopt for a while now. The longer I am on this journey the more I am compelled to get to know others traveling with me. Although I know everyone's story is different I appreciate the opportunity to get to know all of them. My sister also got pregnant out of wedlock, and although she ultimately decided to parent for many reasons, her pregnancy experience was actually very similar to yours. Reading your blog made me ache all over for her, and for you. I'm so glad you are at a much happier point in your life now. Congratulations on your upcoming marriage! Marriage is the best! I wish you all the happiness you deserve. Thanks again, Amanda

  2. Sterling!! I am so happy for you!! can't wait to follow you on this new journey! Congrats :)

  3. I tearing up and so happy for you and that life has led you along to your soon to be eternal marriage. I am a friend of Dave and Amy's and also a recent adoptive mother myself. I know that you don't know me, but I want to say Congratulations anyways and thank you for helping to touch some of the hearts of birthmothers that I came in contact with along the way. I hope life continues to have very happy surprises for you and your family. (Dave and Amy included!)

  4. Congratulations!!!!!!! So excited and happy for you two. You deserve all the best life has to offer!


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